Smart Luvvahs

I think pretty much every Smart I know thinks they’re perfect as is — thank you very much. Okay, that’s not fair, how about it would take most of the Smarts I know longer than other personality types to come up with their own shortcomings in relationships. It’s not to say Smarts are not introspective, they are. It’s just that when it comes to relationships, what is top of mind is what other people do to annoy them versus what they do to annoy others. 

Smart Freedoms (NTPs):

 “16 Ways to Love Your Lover” by Otto Kroeger and Janet M. Thuesen advises Extroverts (ENTPs) to just go ahead and do it already. The “it” being anything your mate asked you to freaking DO. You’re likely to come up with a grand plan or design a system to do what your partner has asked of you when really you should have spent that time actually DOING what they asked you to do. As for Introverted Smart Freedoms (INTPs), Kroeger & Thuesen advise you to express how you feel with emotions and not just how you think about love. As a Classic Freedom (SFJ) I don’t even know if I understand their advice because I keep thinking, “How does one express love through thinking and not feeling?” But, apparently you’re able to do this quite well and their advice is don’t. This way of thinking is going to be lost on the vast majority of personality types.

Smart Structures (NTJs):

Extroverts (ENTJs) need to remember to share their softer side. Your sarcasm often gets in the way of showing and giving affection. Every once in a while, try giving a compliment without the wise ass comment to accompany it. As for the Introverts (INTJs) remember that not everybody is as naturally independent as you are. You cannot expect the same thing from your partner. Offer a little support or assistance on occasion without them asking. I think Kroeger & Thuesen say it best, “Don’t let them sink three times in order to learn how to swim.” Maybe give them a few tips ahead of time, you know??