Thank You For Your Condolences

Dear Katie & Kelly,

Etiquette question. Do thank you cards go to people who sent you condolence cards as well as those who sent food, shiva calls, funeral, donations, etc? I cannot remember. I feel like only you will know this.

Sincerely,
Mourning in Montana

 

Dear Mourning,

We are so sorry for your loss. Truly. It’s never an easy time. You are in our prayers and remain there. Kelly is going to answer your query since etiquette is her forte as a Classic Freedom:

You’ve alerted me to a very upsetting fact which is that in one of my moves I seem to have lost my 1960s Emily Post. Gasp. My bible!! Here goes: In general if you saw the person and thanked them already in person there’s no need to send a thank you note. If you didn’t see them or you feel that you didn’t have a chance to truly thank them then go for it, i.e., condolence notes should be responded to if you don’t see the person, mention the note and thank them. Obviously if someone went above and beyond with everything and you thanked them in person but you have more to say then that’s the exception to this rule. But I’m winging this without my bible and everyone is sympathetic when someone dies, meaning it’s the one time in life you’re not quietly judged for imperfection.

Wishing you all the best,
Katie & Kelly